“Go away, give me a chance to miss you, say goodbye, it’ll make me want to kiss you ..” The lyrics of Pink’s chartbuster ‘Leave me alone’ actually might just be the key to your biggest love weapon. Just because your man is missing in action for a couple hours women get hyper by calling or texting back to back! Instead do exactly what he did, leave your phone in the living room that night and you’ll receive a string of messages the following day.
Studies show that,‘If you are close to someone at all times then where is the room for desire?’ It’s in the space you give each other, where the feelings grow. How often have we heard, ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder?’
I am not speaking about continents apart or years away of absence but I am talking about 6-8 hours or a weekend of absence. It will only make your guy realize how he is used to you or how he really feels for you. For men its the space that lets the feeling creep in. On the other hand for women, it is the time spend together. This is how a woman best figures out how she really feels for her man.
Lets imagine that there is a virtual rubber band around you both, anytime he seems to be getting distant from you. The best tactic to counter this is to pull away yourself a little. When you do so, you cause that virtual rubber band to stretch and suddenly he feels the urge to be pulled back with you, again.
The rubber band effect stands true in most relationships, whether it is at a bar you met your man, or a man you are seeing for a few months or it is a long term relationship of many years.
The basic instinct of a man in love is the chase! When the man at the bar moves to his friends for a while he is just checking whether you are hard enough to get, when the man you have been seeing for a couple of months cancels dates he is just seeing whether you were worth the run and when a man is in a steady bond takes off on a break he is just taking time out to realize how much he needs you.
The rubber band effect is contrary to how it may sound, not about being manipulative, its simply about understanding why a guy needs space. In order to do this, women have to control their impulsiveness which is the only difficult part of this tactic. At the end of a weekend spent apart with minimal calls where you have been merrily occupied and he’s had a chance to miss you, the moment you meet you will feel that it is like your first date.